I found this exercise very helpful. If you had asked me my values before - they would have been close, but weren’t quite the right words. One actually surprised me! I am sitting with the words I think are more true and trying them out. Thanks Brooke! It was lovely to see you after hearing you for 8 years.
Just finished watching the video. I have a question: can't really understand / feel the difference between the value itself and when it is just a tool to serve a value.
For example, health. Being physically and mentally healthy is important for me. Otherwise I don't have energy to be creative or going for a walk or enjoying time with my family. So I truly believed it was my value. Being in therapy or having yearly checkups or doing yoga etc, I like doing all these things, because they are my small steps that help me to be healthy. So is it my value or a tool?! To be honest, I'm confused right now.
I could only open the video on my desktop as well, but I didn't mind because it allowed me to toggle between the handouts and the video. I just completed the exercise and have my list of 5 core values. I'm going to sit with them for a bit and explore them more deeply by journaling about the questions you gave us. The most helpful part to me was the advice to ask ourselves in choosing a value if it felt like an expectation or a tool. I related to your example of health and how it's a priority because it allows you to live your values. I'm looking forward to identifying small ways I can live in my values right now in my real life. Thanks Brooke:)
So glad I subscribed for this yesterday, loved seeing you Brooke. I've watched the video over coffee on a rainy morning here in Brisbane and plan to watch again to do the exercise. This was wonderfully presented and very useful. Thank you xx
Definitely took longer than 30 minutes but many post-its later, I'm down to 5 - Passion, Learning, Belonging (one I made up), Freedom, and Purpose. I found myself aggregating like values together and then finding one word that resonated with that group. Eg, my definition of Passion is sensuality, fun, and joy.
Weirdly, when it came to finding a Thing to sum it all up, do you know what I came up with? Richard Scarry's Busy Town. I think because single parent/self employed life is like being the Mayor of that town. Grocery store, library, school, sometimes there's a fire that needs putting out. Everyone there has a purpose and a function to make the place work as a community, there's cute anthropomorphic animals, and it's quirky AF.
Hi Brooke. Thanks for this first workshop! I thought I was aware of my values and lived according to them. But digging it it with your questions... Turns out that I may be living mostly by my 'should'- and 'tool'-values. I find it a bit confusing. For example: sustainability. I take a lot (A LOT) of effort to live sustainable and I love it - it makes me feel grounded and living truly. But with your questions, I rather think it's a tool for my core values Nature or Growth/Learning new things. And especially the value Nature has way less space in my live (living in a city, without a garden and not going outside every day or even week...). I guess my question is one I have to answer myself :) rereading what I just wrote: maybe I think I should value nature, but I value sustainability more. Intriguing and confusing at the same time. What makes it MY corevalue? I just shared a bit of my thinkingprocess, hope you don't mind :) Thanks again and I'm looking forward to next week!
Dear Brooke, I'm loving this Values workshop! It found me at a perfect timing, moving through a difficult personal transition period. I just spent a moment reflecting on the fact that you recorded the video in Australia a few days ago and here I am, watching it and feeling so closely connected in a small corner of Europe, Hungary :)
A question came up when working through the value cards - There were a couple of them which got me thinking: Is this something really important for me or am I considering giving it a high rate beacuse I am so much longing for it (and not experiencing enough of it)? Self-respect, Self-acceptance, Acceptance, Inner stregth were examples of them - I know it feels great to have those, usually I experience rather the lack of them but I wish I had more.. Soo, would that be a value of mine? Or maybe (as you mentioned in the video) rather a 'solution' for a personal problem? Or...? I'm curious about your thoughts on this.
Thank you so much, looking forward to the second part (still have some work to do with Part1).
Thanks so much for putting this together! I've been struggling with identifying my values for a long time and have always mistakenly selected tools as values and been left feeling like I've missed the mark, so this was really powerful for me.
I was just curious to know if anybody else found that they connected with a description but did not connect with the name of the value? I personally spent a lot of time googling synonyms and definitions 😅
Thank you Brooke. I almost cried when you talked about waiting for more time, money, holidays etc and that we can live our values now. I often feel like I am 'waiting' and just going through the motions in life and hoping things will feel better when I'm on holiday, at the weekend, or at some other point point in the future and not in the now. I knew some values instantly, family, nature and integrity and I know that they are front and centre to my life, however, I struggled with others that I felt were more aspirational, as in, I really want to be more creative and have many failed attempts in this space and I would love to enjoy more inner peace, but does that mean they are core values? How de we separate values that we really aspire to embody, but are perhaps not core to our being right now?
Hi Brooke, I’ve just allowed myself the time to start this workshop series as I sit at home in bed with the flu or something similar. And the fact that I have only taken time for myself to reflect on this when I am feeling unwell is not lost on me 🤦🏻♀️. I particularly appreciated considering which values were actually tools for our deeper values, this was very helpful. My self-acceptance is not the value - peace is the value, self-acceptance (and patience, and simplicity and +++) are the tools I utilise to experience and live in my values of peace, faith and especially love 🤯. And why isn’t there a mind-blown emoji with a smile? 😹. Your work is gold Brooke, thank you 🙏🕊️💖, hugs, Paula
I found this exercise very helpful. If you had asked me my values before - they would have been close, but weren’t quite the right words. One actually surprised me! I am sitting with the words I think are more true and trying them out. Thanks Brooke! It was lovely to see you after hearing you for 8 years.
Hi Brooke and everyone 💛
Just finished watching the video. I have a question: can't really understand / feel the difference between the value itself and when it is just a tool to serve a value.
For example, health. Being physically and mentally healthy is important for me. Otherwise I don't have energy to be creative or going for a walk or enjoying time with my family. So I truly believed it was my value. Being in therapy or having yearly checkups or doing yoga etc, I like doing all these things, because they are my small steps that help me to be healthy. So is it my value or a tool?! To be honest, I'm confused right now.
I could only open the video on my desktop as well, but I didn't mind because it allowed me to toggle between the handouts and the video. I just completed the exercise and have my list of 5 core values. I'm going to sit with them for a bit and explore them more deeply by journaling about the questions you gave us. The most helpful part to me was the advice to ask ourselves in choosing a value if it felt like an expectation or a tool. I related to your example of health and how it's a priority because it allows you to live your values. I'm looking forward to identifying small ways I can live in my values right now in my real life. Thanks Brooke:)
So glad I subscribed for this yesterday, loved seeing you Brooke. I've watched the video over coffee on a rainy morning here in Brisbane and plan to watch again to do the exercise. This was wonderfully presented and very useful. Thank you xx
So excited to join your value workshop. All printed, video is running. Love from Berlin 💚
I’m not seeing the video on my phone - it says “sorry video doesn’t exist”.
Looking at other’s’ comments, it may am only be working on desktop computers?
I’ll try the good ol’ “turn it off and on again” with my phone, in case that helps 😆
Thanks for holding this workshop series, Brooke!
Definitely took longer than 30 minutes but many post-its later, I'm down to 5 - Passion, Learning, Belonging (one I made up), Freedom, and Purpose. I found myself aggregating like values together and then finding one word that resonated with that group. Eg, my definition of Passion is sensuality, fun, and joy.
Weirdly, when it came to finding a Thing to sum it all up, do you know what I came up with? Richard Scarry's Busy Town. I think because single parent/self employed life is like being the Mayor of that town. Grocery store, library, school, sometimes there's a fire that needs putting out. Everyone there has a purpose and a function to make the place work as a community, there's cute anthropomorphic animals, and it's quirky AF.
Hi Brooke. Thanks for this first workshop! I thought I was aware of my values and lived according to them. But digging it it with your questions... Turns out that I may be living mostly by my 'should'- and 'tool'-values. I find it a bit confusing. For example: sustainability. I take a lot (A LOT) of effort to live sustainable and I love it - it makes me feel grounded and living truly. But with your questions, I rather think it's a tool for my core values Nature or Growth/Learning new things. And especially the value Nature has way less space in my live (living in a city, without a garden and not going outside every day or even week...). I guess my question is one I have to answer myself :) rereading what I just wrote: maybe I think I should value nature, but I value sustainability more. Intriguing and confusing at the same time. What makes it MY corevalue? I just shared a bit of my thinkingprocess, hope you don't mind :) Thanks again and I'm looking forward to next week!
Dear Brooke, I'm loving this Values workshop! It found me at a perfect timing, moving through a difficult personal transition period. I just spent a moment reflecting on the fact that you recorded the video in Australia a few days ago and here I am, watching it and feeling so closely connected in a small corner of Europe, Hungary :)
A question came up when working through the value cards - There were a couple of them which got me thinking: Is this something really important for me or am I considering giving it a high rate beacuse I am so much longing for it (and not experiencing enough of it)? Self-respect, Self-acceptance, Acceptance, Inner stregth were examples of them - I know it feels great to have those, usually I experience rather the lack of them but I wish I had more.. Soo, would that be a value of mine? Or maybe (as you mentioned in the video) rather a 'solution' for a personal problem? Or...? I'm curious about your thoughts on this.
Thank you so much, looking forward to the second part (still have some work to do with Part1).
Warmly, Orsi
Thanks so much for putting this together! I've been struggling with identifying my values for a long time and have always mistakenly selected tools as values and been left feeling like I've missed the mark, so this was really powerful for me.
I was just curious to know if anybody else found that they connected with a description but did not connect with the name of the value? I personally spent a lot of time googling synonyms and definitions 😅
Thank you Brooke. I almost cried when you talked about waiting for more time, money, holidays etc and that we can live our values now. I often feel like I am 'waiting' and just going through the motions in life and hoping things will feel better when I'm on holiday, at the weekend, or at some other point point in the future and not in the now. I knew some values instantly, family, nature and integrity and I know that they are front and centre to my life, however, I struggled with others that I felt were more aspirational, as in, I really want to be more creative and have many failed attempts in this space and I would love to enjoy more inner peace, but does that mean they are core values? How de we separate values that we really aspire to embody, but are perhaps not core to our being right now?
Hi Brooke, I’ve just allowed myself the time to start this workshop series as I sit at home in bed with the flu or something similar. And the fact that I have only taken time for myself to reflect on this when I am feeling unwell is not lost on me 🤦🏻♀️. I particularly appreciated considering which values were actually tools for our deeper values, this was very helpful. My self-acceptance is not the value - peace is the value, self-acceptance (and patience, and simplicity and +++) are the tools I utilise to experience and live in my values of peace, faith and especially love 🤯. And why isn’t there a mind-blown emoji with a smile? 😹. Your work is gold Brooke, thank you 🙏🕊️💖, hugs, Paula
The video is not working for me, is it a problem on my end or was there an issue with the upload? Looking forward to work on this topic 💕